Compassion or Empathy

What is it we need the most. You often hear the phrase. Show some compassion

Well something happened this morning and I found myself telling someone.. geesh show a alittle compassion.. She had stated I don’t need friendly compassion and caring
I need help. The whole thing got me thinking. How do we help others the most. I remember a teacher in school constantly telling us that to show empathy was the most helpful thing. My mothers line when I was a child and talking about someone else was. You can’t talk until you have worked in their shoes.


Well
Compassion is defined as a desire to alleviate or reduce the suffering of another. We all know that we can’t physically do that with our friends or collegues that are suffering some chronic illness or anyother painful issue

Empathy is defined as one's ability to recognize, perceive and feel directly the emotions. Empathy is often characterized as the ability to "put oneself into another's shoes". So maybe my mom was right. If we try and put ourselves in their shoes we can see what it is they are troubled with or needing help with.

Maybe a mixture of both …..what do you think??

Perfect

Lately, I have been feeling a lack of something.
I wasn’t sure what it was. So I took a self esteem test (Why do we always think it is low self esteem when we can’t get motivated to conquer the world !? )

I did great until the questions about health and balancing life with work, instead of scoring excellent I got a good." You just need to work on a few things.. "

I pondered the results and their suggestions. I was left feeling "how do I work on those things"
I have declared not to beat myself up anymore. I gave it great thought.

I discovered that I needed to look at myself as whole just the way I am. I need to focus on the really great things that I have to offer my family and my work instead of always trying to do more.. be more. I am just need to be" Me "

My lack of is energy. I can’t change that, there was no handicap on the test. So I gave myself a handicapped score.. Perfect.. LOL… I realized that these tests are for healthly individuals… that have a lot of energy.

So I declare It's time to stop measuring ourselves with healthly people.